Our self-esteem can be very fragile growing up in a world that seems to continually want to try to put dents in it. So I thought I’d compile a list of tips to help us up when things get particularly low in the self-esteem bucket.
Create yourself some boundaries.
I’m sure there are a lot of people benefitting from your lack of boundaries but you’re probably not one of them. Saying no to what doesn’t enhance your life doesn’t have to be a negative thing and it’s also truly liberating. Start today, can you say no to 3 people today?
Face your fears.
Our fears keep us stuck inside our comfort zone where its safe, warm and comfortable. This is where many of us stay for our whole lives. Never daring to venture beyond the walls we’ve built for ourselves. (Yes, we built them ourselves…) The sooner you step outside your comfort zone you’ll see there’s a much wider world to be discovered and that it’s not such a scary place out there after all. The wider you stretch your comfort zone, the wider it will be able to stretch.
Plan to succeed.
When you have a plan in place to follow, it comes with a certain level of confidence. You boost your endorphins every time you celebrate ticking another thing off your to-do list. So plan away so you’ve got lots to tick off but be careful not to overwhelm yourself as it could have the opposite effect.
Who doesn’t love to feel smart? Well if you want to take your life up a level or two it’s time to commit to lifelong learning. Learning doesn’t only happen in institutions. Carve yourself some time to read, take up a hobby, do some self-work. My number one go-to subject for increasing self-esteem is emotional intelligence.
Ditch your stinking thinking.
Are you playing the victim card? Do you suffer from poor me syndrome? Do you spend too much time on the pity potty? Well, guess what, Your mindset is holding you back. Conquer this and you can conquer the world. Mindset is everything.
Release the need for external validation
You reclaim a huge amount of your personal power when you stop worrying about what everyone else thinks. As long as you are trying your best to be a good person it doesn’t matter what others think of you. Truth be told they probably aren’t anyway. Sure it’s nice to be accepted and appreciated but when you stop worrying about it you start naturally living more authentically and from that place, you can attract into your life the kind of people that your soul truly desires.
Figure out your message.
Your self-esteem or lack of it didn’t come from having an easy life, everybody just handles and interprets their struggles differently. But you know what, those difficulties are valuable life-shaping commodities to be appreciated and treasured. They came to make you strong not to tear you down. They came to create a warrior, so it’s time to use them to your advantage. First, figure out the lessons you’ve learned through life’s ups and downs and find as many ways as you can to deliver it to the world. Someone out there needs your words of encouragement, your message and your story of triumph over evil. Write a book, take up public speaking, Start a blog. With the world at your fingertips, you have no excuse not try to use your stories to inspire and empower someone.
I hope you can use this to take your self-esteem up a notch or two. I’d love to hear your comments and tips down below.
Please pass this on to a friend who might need to read this today.
Love and hugs xx