Raise Your Self-Esteem Fast With These 7 Easy Steps

Our self-esteem can be very fragile growing up in a world that seems to continually want to try to put dents in it. So I thought I’d compile a list of tips to help us up when things get particularly low in the self-esteem bucket.

Create yourself some boundaries.

I’m sure there are a lot of people benefitting from your lack of boundaries but you’re probably not one of them. Saying no to what doesn’t enhance your life doesn’t have to be a negative thing and it’s also truly liberating. Start today, can you say no to 3 people today?

Face your fears.

Our fears keep us stuck inside our comfort zone where its safe, warm and comfortable. This is where many of us stay for our whole lives. Never daring to venture beyond the walls we’ve built for ourselves. (Yes, we built them ourselves…) The sooner you step outside your comfort zone you’ll see there’s a much wider world to be discovered and that it’s not such a scary place out there after all. The wider you stretch your comfort zone, the wider it will be able to stretch.

Plan to succeed.

When you have a plan in place to follow, it comes with a certain level of confidence. You boost your endorphins every time you celebrate ticking another thing off your to-do list. So plan away so you’ve got lots to tick off but be careful not to overwhelm yourself as it could have the opposite effect.


Who doesn’t love to feel smart? Well if you want to take your life up a level or two it’s time to commit to lifelong learning. Learning doesn’t only happen in institutions. Carve yourself some time to read, take up a hobby, do some self-work. My number one go-to subject for increasing self-esteem is emotional intelligence.

Ditch your stinking thinking.

Are you playing the victim card? Do you suffer from poor me syndrome? Do you spend too much time on the pity potty? Well, guess what, Your mindset is holding you back. Conquer this and you can conquer the world. Mindset is everything.

Release the need for external validation

You reclaim a huge amount of your personal power when you stop worrying about what everyone else thinks. As long as you are trying your best to be a good person it doesn’t matter what others think of you. Truth be told they probably aren’t anyway. Sure it’s nice to be accepted and appreciated but when you stop worrying about it you start naturally living more authentically and from that place, you can attract into your life the kind of people that your soul truly desires.

Figure out your message.

Your self-esteem or lack of it didn’t come from having an easy life, everybody just handles and interprets their struggles differently. But you know what, those difficulties are valuable life-shaping commodities to be appreciated and treasured. They came to make you strong not to tear you down. They came to create a warrior, so it’s time to use them to your advantage. First, figure out the lessons you’ve learned through life’s ups and downs and find as many ways as you can to deliver it to the world. Someone out there needs your words of encouragement, your message and your story of triumph over evil. Write a book, take up public speaking,  Start a blog. With the world at your fingertips, you have no excuse not try to use your stories to inspire and empower someone.

I hope you can use this to take your self-esteem up a notch or two. I’d love to hear your comments and tips down below.

Please pass this on to a friend who might need to read this today.

Love and hugs xx


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This Post Has 30 Comments

  1. Julie

    These are ALL great reminders. I feel I need to reread this every day. Thanks for sharing!

  2. T. M. Brown

    Ah – the external validation…..that is always a toughy. Great list and perspective to take. Thanks for sharing.

  3. These are some really great reminders. I love how you talk about us building the walls ourselves…so true.

  4. I love all of these tips, especially setting boundaries and facing your fears. Whenever you do something that scares you, you get more confident when you face the situation the next time around!

  5. Jenny Morrison

    Great reminders! I love it! It is so important to refocus on this every now and then.

  6. Katie Mitchell

    Great tips! Improving my mental health and self-esteem is one of my goals for 2019.

  7. Susan Franklin

    Great tips, I’m getting better at saying ‘no’ it’s really hard when you are a ‘people pleaser.’ Also, I like my comfort zone, so facing my fears is definitely an area I need to focus on. As I look to retire from my corporate job keeping all of this in mind is going to be very helpful!

  8. Laura

    Such an inspiring post! Great tips! Thanks for sharing them!

  9. Dee

    Great tips! Facing my fears is a big one for me.

  10. Kim

    I love this! I had some personal issues that kept me in my comfort zone where it was safe. But the more I ventured out, the more confident I became. I also feel like I’m having much more fun in life!

  11. themommyonthemove

    These are great tips and some good insight! Thank you!

  12. Pauline

    These are excellent tips!!

  13. Cindy

    All good suggestions! Great reminder.

  14. Mom Life Optimized

    These are great!!! My favorite is to face your fears and release the need for outside validation!!!

  15. Sandi Barrett

    Sayinig no to three people! Easier than you think, I did it today and it made me happy! huh!

  16. Nikki

    Great post and great advice for everyone. More people need to follow this advice

  17. Lisa

    Boundaries! Something I am learning a lot about recently.

  18. Michele

    Such an important message! I try to teach this to my daughter daily! Thanks for sharing!

  19. Angela Greven

    Great tips 🙂 My favorite word is “No” don’t get me wrong, I say yes a lot too! But I listen to my gut and never say yes when I know I shouldn’t. Thank you!

  20. Jessica

    Such a great read. I was just thinking about needing to say no more.

  21. Kayella

    PREACH! Seriously, I grew up listening to my mom tell me these things over and over. Now that I’m in my early twenties, married, and traveling the world with my husband, all of these steps are coming into play. Some are harder than others, but they are all equally important.

  22. Anna

    This is so true! You can only succed when you keep pushing your limits, only then you can go beyond.

  23. rhamrin

    Really great tips — all of them! Boundaries were and sometimes still are the hardest for me to learn!

  24. Junell DuBois

    Great list. It’s so hard to not care what others think about you! I think we all have a little of that need in us.

    1. Chantelle

      totally agree. very difficult one to shake

  25. shortsaler

    I think external validation is a big one for people and something I think sometimes I should care more about but I do not. At least in many areas. It goes along with not being fearful.

  26. Karie

    Love articles on boosting confidence and self esteem. It seems I’m always in need of them. When will I ever learn?

    1. Chantelle

      I know right. A little bit at a time I guess 🙂

  27. joliestarrett

    Great article and perspectives!

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