Living Unapologetically.

What is living Unapologetically?

Have you ever thought about what it means to be living unapologetically? Whose life are you living anyway? How many times do you apologise on a daily basis? Of those Apologies, How many are essentially for not living up to other peoples wants, needs, ideals and expectations? How often do you stop to think about what your own real expectations are? What do you really want and need to live a happy and fulfilled life?

We live in a world where practically anything is possible, but we all know we can’t have everything, so I think we should probably pick more wisely. So often we get bogged down and distracted by other peoples priorities, that we rarely get to think about, let alone move toward living our own self-crafted life.

Living our pre-programming.

From birth we are taught how we must live. Our lives are pretty much planned and managed for us, our creativity is stifled. Go to school, get a job, marry and have kids, work your tail off and buy stuff, consume until you’re on the home run. You’re a failure if you don’t keep up with the Jones’. What kind of life is this?  When we have no opportunity to problem solve and appreciate the simple things in life we miss out on the opportunity to build a life in which we can thrive. Yes humans thrive on routines but most of us don’t realise how much power we have to create our own. We just sell our time and put all our efforts into making someone else’s processes work and when we get rewarded for it, it reinforces the process so we feel like we’re doing well. I can assure you that the rewards are far greater when we reclaim our power.

Let’s stop and think.

I’d like to encourage you to stop and think about what your most important values and principles are. These should be the backbone of your being. I know from experience that many regrets are formed from doing what others wanted you to do instead of sticking to your own values and principles. Stick to your principles and create a life you love. When we become creators, our own routines, plans and processes become priority. We can reap far better rewards and have bigger and better opportunities to do more good in the world.

Being Unapologetic.

I don’t know about you but I, for one, am sure of this; I will no longer strive toward your idea of good, great, awesome or amazing. No longer will I prioritise your comfort over my own, and I would never expect that of you either. You need to do you, I wholly believe that. Find your flow, craft and live the life of your dreams, live unapologetically. This is the essence of self love. I wholly believe in the philosophy ‘do as you will, harm none’. People will be inspired by your courage to break free from necessity, you will attract more amazing people into your life, that is where true fulfilment lies. That is essentially what we all want deep down, whether we know it or not.

Chantelle

Exploring personal power and inspiring you to do the same.

This Post Has 5 Comments

  1. I have been pondering this exact thing. I apologize for everything even when the other person is at fault and have started getting a little frustrated at myself as how it’s just a way for me to be walked all over and people do. It’s not being nice or respectful to apologize all the time. I am not setting boundaries and respect. I have to be more confident and remember how to be respectful and apologetic at the times it’s appropriate and not allow disrespect of myself in using it. Great read. Thanks

  2. I loved reading this! I think it’s important to take a step back, and evaluate who we are living our lives for. Some people are “people pleasers” and they live for themselves instead of others. I was definitely one of them, and I can say for a fact that it is so freeing to let that mindset go and to stat living for yourself. Thanks for sharing!

  3. I love the section about getting your own personal values and principles in perspective. We have to know what our focus is before we can be confident with living in a world filled with everyone else’s.

  4. I used to apologize for everything! I even apologized when I received a compliment–I don’t know why, I guess my self esteem was really low. I’ve had such a hard time trying to find the right path for my life because I always seem to consider what would be best for other people. Is this line of work profitable enough? What will my family have to say about my going back to school? Sometimes I forget to consider what would make me happy, to the point that I don’t even know what that would be!

    Thank you for an unapologetic reminder that we should all strive to be our best selves, regardless of what others think!

  5. I agree we live in a world where people are so focused on others. However, it is a balance of empathy and self love.

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