How To Deal With Stress
Stress comes and goes for most people. But some people don’t have a clue how to deal with stress. It tends to linger and cause more drama than it’s worth. If you hold onto your stress for long enough it can create mental health issues and even worse. So it’s a good idea to have a few tools at your disposal to deal with it when it rears its ugly head.
The reason we get stressed is usually that we’re quite addicted to being in control. We tell ourselves a story about how this or that should be and then we get frustrated when we can’t get our own way. As mature adults, we should have gained the capability of navigating stressful situations quite calmly. We should have been taught how to deal with stress as children. But unfortunately, many of us were never given tools. This post will outline a few helpful tips you can use to help you get out of your next stressful situation.
Notice Your Triggers
First, notice what the things are which trigger you. What times of the day, which people or situations make you feel especially triggered? Can you do anything to adapt your response or relationship to the trigger? Have you eaten? Are you well-rested? What if you changed your usual routine so that you could work around or through it differently? Maybe if you’re always stressed from getting stuck in traffic you could leave the house a little earlier.
Embrace Your Emotions
Second, realise it’s ok to sit with stress and any emotion for that matter. We don’t have to cling to it. We don’t have to identify with it and we definitely don’t have to be afraid of it. Notice it, honour it (it’s here to teach you a valuable lesson about yourself) and allow it to pass through you and out the other side. Notice that story in your mind and realise how irrational it sounds. It’s not yours though, you can become a witness of the thought feed and not get attached. Practice self-love and acceptance.
Become a Master Narrator
Third, Re-narrate the story. How crazy does the story sound? What if you reframed the situation. How would you react if someone else told you this story? What if you looked at it from someone else’s point of view? Perhaps you could diffuse potentially charged situations before they even get off the ground with a simple re-narration.
Practice Radical Acceptance
Fourthly, Realise everything happens for a reason. If everything is happening exactly as it must then who am I to stress about it? It’s kinda liberating to think that everything can and will be handled with or without my input. It won’t always be the way we would have handled it ourselves but it will all be handled. So the weight is off your shoulders. Take a breather, then grab your most important task (schedule, delegate or delete the rest) and immerse yourself. Problems solved.
So there you have it. I know it can be tricky to deal with stuff on the spot but hopefully, next time you’re wondering how to deal with stress, some of these will come to your rescue and help you calm down, stop the cortisol levels getting out of hand and get back to your bliss. We all could do with tips and tricks for navigating life so please share this with your friends and family.