Love, Honour and Cherish Yourself.
Do you know who you are? Do you know how worthy of love you are? What have you done for you lately? I think the world is lacking in people who love, honour and cherish themselves. Let’s be the next ones who decide to join them.
I think it was Socrates that said above all else we should know ourselves. But I’d take it one step further and say our first lesson in life should be to love our selves fully and wholly. When we love, honour and cherish ourselves we accept ourselves fully and no amount of rejection and humiliation can make a big enough dent in our self-esteem to bring us down. We don’t need external approval or validation. We know that everyone is behaving based on their level of education and experience in the world.
Don’t give to anybody else what you wouldn’t give to yourself.
Too many of us get to adulthood self-loathing and getting into relationships and marriages, promising to love honour and cherish each other when we haven’t learned to love ourselves. Then we bring children into the world and they see how much we hate our waistlines or how socially awkward we are and they pick up on these habits, consciously or unconsciously and the cycle continues.
It seems to be something of a taboo to love ourselves like its bad for your ego or the environment or something. I disagree. Self-love will help you start moving towards freedom from ego and will definitely improve your environment, Internally and externally.
when we give away our love before we love ourselves, we give away our power.
I want to propose something to you. What if we loved ourselves, fully and truly? What if we modelled true self-love to our children. I’m pretty sure you can’t teach it, Some things can only be shown. Surely it couldn’t help but rub off on them? How about we look after our bodies and our health, fully and completely? What if we exercised more regularly and ate more healthy foods? What if we set healthy boundaries and stopped chasing the elusive? It could be something as simple as moisturising our skin when we get out of the bath or as grand as taking yourself on holiday. What matters is you do it for you, for your own mental, emotional, physical or spiritual wellbeing.
Let’s Teach Our Kids to Love Themselves.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if more children entered their adult world loving themselves, fully and wholly, with clear boundaries that they refused to let anyone overstep? What if any makeup, hair, nails they decided to put on was for themselves and not for anybody else out there? People pleasing is a difficult habit to break, especially if you’ve spent ten years of your life in school. Let’s take the time to unschool our children when and where necessary.
I propose we get started on a radical self-love journey and show our kids what it means to be full and whole. Let’s stop living lives on everybody else’s terms and start living on our own terms. Let’s really dig deep and examine what it is we really want and need. Life is too short to always be living it for someone else.
Make It A Part Of The Conversation
Don’t forget to talk to your children about what you’re doing and why. Explain to them and help them to understand why self-love is paramount, why gold stars don’t define their worth. Having discussions about how we can learn from our mistakes rather than beating ourselves up about them can be a hugely helpful life tool.
Show them how they can do anything they put their mind to. Lead by example.
I can’t promise you it’s going to be easy, but I promise it will be worth it. I believe that with my whole heart. And I bet you cause more ripples than you’ll realise. You will not be the only one who will feel that they have permission to love themselves either. So what have you got to lose? let’s raise a generation of kids who own their superheroism.
Maybe then, when our kids grow up and if they decide to promise to love, honour and cherish someone else. They will already know deep inside of them what it actually means. But it won’t happen by itself, It starts with you.