Introducing your Anxiety
So who needs a pep talk? What have you been avoiding lately? I often find myself trapped and procrastinating over the very thing I know I should be doing. Anxiety is the perpetrator but before you scowl in its direction, know this. The answer and key to healing is in embracing anxiety. Anxiety gets alot of bad press and pushing it away and complaining about things is rarely the answer to any problem. It’s just a protective mechanism really. It wants you to be safe.
What if I told you that your anxiety loves you? That it came to wrap you in a big warm hug and what did we do? We tried to push it away and we avoided the difficult things. Our protective barriers went up. We didn’t know anxiety came to teach us some valuable lessons. So we never sought to learn them. The more we pushed away the more strained our relationship with it became.
What’s So Scary About Anxiety?
The problem with anxiety is we don’t like the way it makes us feel. So we have interpreted its presence as a bad thing. It doesn’t have to be this way. When we get curious about why we feel this way we can uncover the messages it has come to teach us.
What If We Committed To Embracing Anxiety?
What if we sat with our anxieties and embraced them fully and completely? What if we welcomed it as a teaching opportunity? What if we learned everything we could about it? That thing you’re petrified of doing, what if it would grow you exponentially? Embracing anxiety can and will set us free from its walls.
But How Do We Do That?
A little mindfulnss goes a long way.
It’s good to sit with yourself sometimes and just listen. I know, I know, easier said than done. Busy, Busy, Busy. But sitting in stillness really can and will speak to you if you give it the chance. I don’t really call it meditation but I do tend to make an effort to sit in quietude at least once a day even if it’s just being present in bed before I get up in the morning.
Changing your interpretation of anxiety can help you respond in a calmer way. Nobody wants to have too much cortisol running around in their body. And guess what, it’s as smple as telling your brain to think another thought. So if you can reframe your anxiety, perhaps it’s really excitement, anticipation or curiosity? Then that will go a long way towards a healthier happier you.
Notice your triggers
What makes you feel anxious and why? What is the story you are telling yourself when it arises? Is it true, is it necessary, is it kind? Is there another true and more empowering thought or belief you could replace it with?
We think we’re experienced and know what’s going to happen when actually, we don’t have a clue. That’s ego speaking when you can’t seem to get off the starting blocks. Ego uses our past to decide what the outcome is going to be and quite often it’s wrong but we don’t give ourselves the chance to find out for sure. We’ve failed before we’ve even started.
Sometimes it helps to set it in stone so we can get some perspective, it’s really not such a big bad thing after all. Then you can get on with other things until the time comes. Tick it off the list and maybe even have a reward waiting for afterwards.
When we fear the awful outcome we have dreamt up in our mind we drag out tasks way longer than they need to take. But, what if we just accepted that worst-case dramatized probably way off the mark conclusion? You know what I reckon? We could probably handle it. We could handle most things, people not liking us or not fitting in or absolute failure and complete humiliation. Whatever excuse your ego is throwing at you today, accept it. It’s probably way off anyway.
Ok, So I’m Embracing Anxiety, What Now?
Once we start to do the difficult thing our anxiety takes a side step. (Maybe not straight away) It watches while you slay it and step into the power that comes from conquering our fears. It seems silly that we put it off for so long. We enter flow, work just seems to flow out like we’re totally always connected to the power. Sometimes you have to sit in discomfort for a little while to tap into it but I totally welcome it when it comes.
Eventually anxiety will see that you don’t need it to protect you anymore. you’re brave, strong and corageous and now you know it. You can get through the hard things and accomplish your goals.
Our comfort zone seems warm and cosy and we don’t want to step out into the unknown so we allow our ego to sabotage any opportunity we have of creating and stepping into a better life. We know inside ourselves that our poor habits of procrastination and resistance to change don’t serve us or anyone else, we totally would like to move away from allowing these destructive types of habits to control us.
You have so much potential for greatness.
The comfort zone is a trap. It keeps you playing small. It keeps you fearful and it keeps you feeling trapped. Embracing anxiety moves us from fear and into curiosity. What could we accomplish if we were truly unafraid and we got curious about why we feel the way we feel?
Your power awaits you on the other side of your fear. The time is now. Your time is now. Step outside of the way things have always been done. It’s time for a new era. An era of brave and powerful action takers and changemakers. It’s time to step into your power. The world needs you to level up and help others to rise up. It’s good to be reminded to be mindful of our destructive habits so we can direct our healing.
You don’t have to sit around in the struggle and the fear and the pain. Don’t let these things control you anymore. You came here to excel, I hope you already knew that even if it was deep down and anxiety supressed inside you. It is time to bring out your power, to take action, to set an new example. The world is waiting for your contribution. Get in gear. Do it now. I believe in you. It’s time for you to believe in you too.