Identify What Holds You Back.

Are you struggling to work towards your true goals and to discover your mission and purpose? Perhaps you're spending too much time prioritising other peoples priorities? It could be time to identify what holds you back. well at least some of it.  Discover True Freedom. We can spend so much of our lives overwhelmed and consumed that we rarely get any peace. All the things we have put into our lives makes sure of this and we can't see what's causing it because we are so busy trying to stay on top of it all. Trying to keep too many balls in the air can drive you to insanity. Your mental health is worth far more than trying so hard to conform to too many requirements and expectations. To discover true freedom to design and live the life you choose, you must take stock of what is truly important to…

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Watch Your Self Talk

How often do you stop and take notice of the way you speak to yourself? Most of us go about our day on autopilot and believe that we have no control over the cards we’re dealt. But in reality we attract the life we are living in. Our self talk controls our feelings, our actions, many of our decisions and therefore many of the outcomes. Our inner narrative has a lot to answer for.  When you do stop and take notice of that voice inside, does it uplift you or get you down? Does it make you take positive steps or want to run for the hills? Many of us go about our day oblivious of the way we put ourselves down and hold ourselves back from our dreams. It could be time to stop and take note. It could be life changing. You deserve more positive action in your…

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Love Yourself, Above All Else

When did you forget the love you once had for yourself? Was it that time you were humiliated or the time you failed at an important task? Did someone you truly loved walk away or treat you badly? It’s difficult to love yourself when there’s no true sense guidance. Most people out there don’t really love themselves so how can they teach or model it to someone else? Everybody is busy running around trying to please everyone else, without giving thought the responsibility they have for their own needs. Where is the love? It was programmed out of us by social constructs and traditions, which taught you all the things you could be and all of the things you couldn’t. Most of the things you could do didn’t seem like you. So what was there to love? It was lost in the translation of what was acceptable and what wasn’t.…

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Metamorphosis is your birthright

Did you know Metamorphosis was your birthright? When you were born you were so full of potential to grow and flourish. You knew it. Everybody knew when you wanted or needed something, and you had no problem making it known. But, because you spent most of your life being stifled, downtrodden, humiliated and belittled, you got stuck, trying to fit into the normal sized box you were issued, you forgot your worth. You are enough So I came to remind you that you are enough. To wake you up to the amazing gifts that you already have inside of you. You came with a message and a purpose. Everything you have experienced up to this point was sent to grow you. Most of us are taught to interpret the things that happen to us in a disadvantageous way. But we’ve got it all wrong. Everything is for us, not against…

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Guide to Focus and Momentum for Master Procrastinators

Guide to Focus and Momentum. Sometimes it's really difficult to stay focused on a task that we find boring or uninteresting and we can find ourselves procrastinating. Ok, maybe more than sometimes. I put together this guide to focus and momentum because  I'm a self-proclaimed master procrastinator. I figured others probably have a similar problem so I set out to find ways to help me to put a loving pressure on myself to access my flow state when I can't seem to stay away from the distractions. What is Procrastination? Procrastination is doing something you shouldn't be doing when you know you should be doing something else. When we get distracted by every new shiny thing we give away our power. We lose the ability to reach out for and accomplish our goals. Our overall life quality is restricted when we are unable to control our awareness. Eat And Sleep…

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How To Deal With Stress

How To Deal With Stress Stress comes and goes for most people. But some people don't have a clue how to deal with stress. It tends to linger and cause more drama than it's worth. If you hold onto your stress for long enough it can create mental health issues and even worse. So it's a good idea to have a few tools at your disposal to deal with it when it rears its ugly head. The reason we get stressed is usually that we're quite addicted to being in control. We tell ourselves a story about how this or that should be and then we get frustrated when we can't get our own way. As mature adults, we should have gained the capability of navigating stressful situations quite calmly. We should have been taught how to deal with stress as children. But unfortunately, many of us were never given…

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The Beauty Of Vulnerability.

Do you recognise the beauty of vulnerability? I bet you don't. Most of us see only weakness in our vulnerabilities. We were raised to conceal them. We were told things like wipe your eyes, don't cry, don't be a baby or be a big boy when we were hurt. But you know what? That was so limiting. We deserved better than that, we should've been taught how to release our pain and emotions not to hide away like we don't all have weaknesses and vulnerability. It is truly beautiful to get to a place where we can be so authentic that we can let our vulnerabilities shine through. It shouldn't have to be but stepping into your vulnerability is courageous. Nobody's perfect and recognising the beauty of vulnerability will help you to accept that. It's liberating to admit our inefficiencies and bring them out into the open. It can help…

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Embracing Anxiety: Doing The Difficult Things

Embracing Anxiety Introducing your Anxiety So who needs a pep talk? What have you been avoiding lately? I often find myself trapped and procrastinating over the very thing I know I should be doing. Anxiety is the perpetrator but before you scowl in its direction, know this. The answer and key to healing is in embracing anxiety. Anxiety gets alot of bad press and pushing it away and complaining about things is rarely the answer to any problem. It's just a protective mechanism really. It wants you to be safe.  What if I told you that your anxiety loves you? That it came to wrap you in a big warm hug and what did we do? We tried to push it away and we avoided the difficult things. Our protective barriers went up. We didn't know anxiety came to teach us some valuable lessons. So we never sought to learn…

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The Pit Of Despair

She tried to do normal, but it was hard. It stung, it itched, it irritated the very crevices of her soul. She didn't fit in, she had no qualms admitting that. She was lost, miserable, drowning in self pity. Everything about the mundanity of everyday life overwhelmed her. She was done bending over backwards to meet the needs of others. Her back was broken. She didn't know what to do to escape the pain. She longed for a familiarity she had only ever found in one place. She had tried to find it elsewhere but never could. She didn't really want to, but she didn't feel like she had much of a choice, She quietly climbed back into her pit of despair. It was where she felt safe. It was cold and damp and lonely and quite a few sizes too small. In fact it choked her a little but…

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How To Overcome Procrastination AKA Overwhelm

I've been known to sit and procrastinate for days. Then I realise that the reasons for my doing so are based in fear and overwhelm. So many things to do & worry about, So many rules to follow. There just don't seem to be enough hours in the day to do everything. But then I realise my overwhelm is keeping me stuck. I hardly get anything done and I definitely don't get it done well when I'm worrying about all the other stuff. So I set out to create this system to overcome overwhelm. Now next time that I feel overwhelm creeping in I can get on top of it quickly. I hope it helps you too. Take a Time Out I can gain alot of clarity just by doing a quick mindfulness excercise or taking a short walk. I highly recommend taking that little time to reset and refocus…

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How About You Love, Honour and Cherish Yourself?

Love, Honour and Cherish Yourself. Do you know who you are? Do you know how worthy of love you are? What have you done for you lately? I think the world is lacking in people who love, honour and cherish themselves. Let's be the next ones who decide to join them. I think it was Socrates that said above all else we should know ourselves. But I'd take it one step further and say our first lesson in life should be to love our selves fully and wholly. When we love, honour and cherish ourselves we accept ourselves fully and no amount of rejection and humiliation can make a big enough dent in our self-esteem to bring us down. We don't need external approval or validation. We know that everyone is behaving based on their level of education and experience in the world.   Don't give to anybody else what…

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Time is the most precious gift.

Time is the most precious Gift I was recently asked by Xavier what it means to me to be spoiled in a relationship. I didn't realise it was going to turn into a blog post but it really made me stop and think and whenever I do that it usually tends to make good food for thought. Everybody loves a treat but i'm the kind of person who appreciates the little things, so my initial response was that I didn't need to be spoilt. This is what made it a difficult question to answer. So anyway I gave it some more thought and this is what I realised. I like to be spoilt as much as anyone else and the element of surprise or adventure is always a massive bonus. This could be as extravagant as a Michelin star restaurant or ski trip to a simple break from the norm, …

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